What Is Emotional Intelligence?
Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to recognise, interpret, and process emotions in yourself and others. Emotional intelligence is sometimes referred to as EQ or EI and was popularised by Dan Goleman in his 1995 book “EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.” For the workplace, emotional intelligence is commonly defined as the ability to identify your own emotions and those of others and to use this information to guide behaviour.
Emotional intelligence is one of the essential skills for a leader and manager to have. It is one of the most important attributes of a good leader. In the same IQ represents your Intelligence Quotient, EQ means your Emotional Quotient. We don’t believe having high emotional intelligence is more or less important than having a high IQ.
However, IQ and EQ both are the most critical components of balanced leadership. You need to have the intelligence to understand the processes involved in management as well as having the skills to get others to perform effectively for you. No matter how intelligent you are, to get others to function effectively, you need a high EQ. Unless your IQ and EQ are well balanced and in equilibrium, it won’t be easy to get people to work effectively for you.
Developing Emotional Intelligence
While genetics, upbringing, and environment all play a role, there are steps you can take to develop your emotional intelligence over time. Therefore, here are a few steps which you can take that will help you build your emotional intelligence over time.
Remember, Emotional Intelligence isn’t about suppressing emotions. It’s about learning how to recognise, process, and channel them in a way that will benefit you and your team. Enhancing your emotional intelligence requires effort, but it can be achieved with sustained practice
Steps to develop emotional intelligence
- Get To Know Yourself
The first step towards attaining emotional intelligence is becoming self-aware. Once you become self-aware, you will have a realistic appreciation of your strengths and weaknesses, how you come across to others. Peer-feedback is one way of improving your self-awareness and may uncover a few of your emotional blind spots
- Learn Your triggers
Linked to the notion of self-awareness is knowing you are likely to respond in particular situations. Think about how you felt the last time you were under pressure. Did these feelings help or hinder yours? Recognising emotions and the source of these emotions can help shift your emotional state
Seeing things from someone else’s perspective will help you understand their values and beliefs. This is important when it comes to motivating and engaging others. Make a conscious effort to get to know your colleagues. Ask open questions and actively listen to what they have to say rather than merely waiting for your turn to speak.
- Own Your Emotions
Part of being emotionally intelligent is about taking responsibility for the way you interact with others if someone upsets you, pause and reflect on why their actions led you to feel this way, instead of reacting impulsively.
- Go With Your Gut
Finally, listen to your body. If your stomach starts doing backflips every time you speak to your senior manager, or your muscles tense up before you go into a meeting, WHAT DOES THIS TELL YOU? Counterintuitive as it might seem, emotions can be a valuable source of information when making rational decisions at work
10 Traits Emotionally Intelligent People have
There is no such thing, such as an emotionally intelligent being. Instead, it is a spectrum in which everyone can learn and improve. While some people are identified as being a born leader with charisma and magnetism, there are skills that everyone can understand.
Emotional intelligence in ourselves means we can identify our emotions and respond to them. Our emotional intelligence concerning others is the ability to be aware of other people’s emotions; this knowledge to guide our behaviour towards them.
Therefore, let us take a look at ten different traits emotionally intelligent people exhibit. These will help you if you are attaining emotional intelligence or at least tell you from where you should start
Emotionally intelligent people are self-aware. They have a realistic approach towards their strengths and weaknesses and how they come across to others. Such people rely on the power of peer-feedback, which in turn helps them become more self-aware. As they are self-aware, people with high EQ can quickly find out if they have any emotional blind spots.
Empathy is the capacity to understand or feel what the other person is experiencing from within their reference. People with higher EQ tend to think from the other person’s perspective before they make any decision. This ability helps them become a right and just leader
When you’re curious, you’re passionate. And when you are emotional, you are driven to want to be the best version of yourself. Your antenna is up to the things you love, to wanting to learn more, and grow. This learning mindset positively affects other areas of your life.
- Analytical Mind
People having high emotional intelligence tend to analyse things. These people are committed and are deep thinkers that analyse and all new information that comes their way. Meanwhile, they continue to explore old information, habits, and ways of doing things to see if they can extract ways to improve.
A significant component of maintaining emotional self-control is using the power of faith to believe in yourself, both in the present in the future. People with high EQ keep pushing themselves and others to the limit with the belief that they can achieve anything in life. This is how they unlock the true potential within themselves and others.
- Needs And Wants
The emotionally intelligent mind can discern between the things they need and between the things they want. Those with a high EQ always put their needs before their wants.
Inspired leadership and love for what you do are born from having a passion for a subject or people. People with high EQ use their passion and purpose to ignite the engine that drives them to do what they do.
If you want to increase your opportunities, improve your relationships, and think clearly and constructively, your best positioned to maintain a positive attitude. Of all the things we try to control and influence, our attitude is the primary thing that is always within our control
According to the great Mahatma Gandhi, adaptability is not imitation, but the power of resistance and assimilation. Emotionally intelligent people recognise when to continue their course, and when it’s time for a change. This vital recognition and ability to make crisp, swift decisions in your best interest, is called adaptability
- Desire To Help Others Succeed
Emotionally intelligent helps a person unlock his true potential by pushing him to the limit. They exhibit patience and a tremendous amount of belief in doing so. This is because of their desire to succeed and to help others succeed